Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar Share Five Tips for a 'Dynamic Marriage,' Shoot Down Divorce Rumors

By Leah Marieann Klett
Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar
Photo of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar. Photo Credit: Wikimedia Commons/Jim Bob Duggar

Former "19 Kids and Counting" stars Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have shared the five tips for a "dynamic marriage" that they've learned over three decades together, seemingly putting to rest rampant rumors of divorce.

On Tuesday, the couple took to Facebook to reveal that they were recently asked to share with a group of couples the "keys we have learned over the past 32 years in pursuing a dynamic marriage."

"We are more in love today than when we married almost 32 years ago!" the parents of 19 wrote. "By God's grace, our marriage is the strongest and sweetest it has ever been!"

Their top advice for couples: "Individually pursue a close relationship with Jesus. The closer we each get to God, the closer we each get to each other."

The pair also advised couples to never go to bed angry with each other: "Don't let the sun go down on your wrath, which means don't let offenses build up, but apologize and make things right quickly."

"Never say put downs or negative name calling, but instead, praise each other with a grateful spirit," the couple wrote.

The Duggars encouraged couples to "Go out on regular dates and enjoy each other's company," and recommended a book for husbands and wives to read together, His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley.

As of Wednesday morning, the post had received over 5,000 "likes" and hundreds of shares, with many thanking the Duggars for their advice and praising them for their commitment to one another despite rumors suggesting otherwise.

Three out of Jim Bob and Michelle's 19 children are currently married - Josh, Jill and Jessa. However, Josh, 28, recently exited rehab after spending six months in a faith-based treatment center in Rockford, Illinois, following his admission that he cheated on his wife, Anna, and was addicted to pornography.

"It was a crucial first step in recovery and healing for Josh," the Duggars wrote in a blog post about Josh's rehab stay. "We look to God for help and guidance and place all of our trust in Him. We are forever grateful for the love and prayers offered by so many and hope you will continue to pray in the days ahead."

While Anna has supported her husband amid the highly publicized scandals, she recently said the process has been "painful" and "overwhelming."

"He had accounts set up on websites that were set up specifically for having an affair and cheating on your spouse, and it was just feeling like your world instantly shattered," Anna recalled a recent episode of the "19 Kids and Counting" spinoff show, "Jill & Jessa: Counting On." "How? Where? Why? Just all of those questions running through your mind. It was overwhelming," she added.

In a statement on the Duggar family's blog, Anna also expressed hope that God will use her husband's indiscretions to strengthen their marriage: "I trust that God will continue to show His love and tenderness toward us and bring beauty from ashes-somehow-as only He can do," she continued. "Please continue to pray for me, Josh and our children."

"Jill & Jessa: Counting On"  follows Jessa and her husband, Ben Seewald, as they raise their son, Spurgeon, 4 months, while Jilland her husband, Derick Dillard, work in Central America as missionaries with their son, Israel, 11 months. The program also features appearances from several other family members, including Anna.

"Jill & Jessa: Counting On" airs on TLC on Tuesdays at 9 p.m. EST.